September 16, 2008
Hey guys,
So as of late, I've been casually dating. I've been going out on dates with several different guys all in the same week. It's a lot fun, and I'm not taking anything too seriously since I just got done with a big, confusing relationship situation. It's nice getting to know a bunch of different people and figuring out what I really like in a person before I decide to just date one. Most of the time I just end up deciding to be friends with these guys.
About four days ago, I met a guy who I think I could really like. We've seen each other every day but one since then, and we're planning on hanging out tomorrow as well. We've made-out and cuddled, but nothing more.
I also accepted a date with a different guy the day after tomorrow. I'm not ready to tie myself down quite yet...But I guess my question for you is this: Do you think it's necessary to tell this other guy I've been hanging out with a lot over the past week that I'm still accepting dates from other people? Do you think it's inappropriate that I'm even going on dates with a bunch of different people like this when I'm starting to hang out with the one consistently? (I've only kissed this one.)
Oi! Thanks! :)
by Mack Cassidy
While I don't think its inappropriate, or wrong, I suspect you are setting yourself up for hurting your new relationship.
Its a matter of expectations; if you want to date a bunch of people, you need to make sure to tell them up front what you are looking for so they don't make assumptions.
You're in a tough spot with this guy if you haven't laid out any expectations.
He sounds pretty interested in you and any of the trust you guys have built up over the last week might be hurt if you tell him you're seeing other people still.
You have a choice as I see it, break it off with the other people and give this guy a more serious try. Or, try to explain to him where you are at, apologize for not telling him sooner, and hope he's confident enough not to take it to badly.
I don't recommend lying about anything, bad for relationships and character =)
Good luck