September 12, 2008
I have known this guy for a little over a year and when we first met we were both interested in other people so it was a comfortable relationship because neither of us anticipated it leading to anything. Lately he has turned up the flirting, made remarks like "if we were dating... or "well if we got married...", and has become even started calling me pet names. How do I know if he is just really comfortable with our friendship, interested in something more than friendship with me, and whether he still is interested in this other girl (without asking him anything directly)?
by Nicholas Ryan
Kristin, why can't you ask him directly? Men like direct questions, and they respect women who ask them. Men don't like games or women who are sneaky. Ask him!
Does this mean you no longer have interest in the other guy? But his "woman" is still around? And, even if he's not interested in the other woman, you're asking the wrong question. You want to know if he's interested in you based on his behaviors. You should just ask him, and if you're embarrassed to ask him, tell him you need a date for a work party and ask if he'd like to go. It's harmless to ask because it seems as if you are asking out of requirement, but if he says yes and shows interest, you'll have some insight. Please, if you have any love in your heart for men, just ask him already!!