September 05, 2008
I like someone but cannot tell if he reciprocates coz his actions are all contradicting.He treats me differently than the others- ignores me sometimes.
But he acts really cool around me- sort of like vr laidback.
And he was looking at me but when I look back, without smiling, he turned away.
When he does talk to me, he mentions my name at the start of every question and asks me about myself-why and what. Once, he was coming down the stairs and I was going up, he saw me, seemed surprise and say, “Eh, my name” and smiled like he was so happy to see me.He was with his friends but they just look at me and smiled.
He brushed me with his bag but didn’t turn around and say sorry.
He stood next to me without speaking to me- he pointedly ignored me.
To be fair, I never said his name except to myself when I’m alone and in my heart every time I see him.
And when I was with my gf, I was in front but his eyes sort of like scan me through and he talked to my friend in . He didn’t even look at me after that…
When he was approaching me, he smiled at me from afar, his eyes were fixed on me.When he doesn't ignore me, he'll look a lot and smile and mention my name even to ask sth that he doesn't necessarily have to ask,acts really smart in front of me and mixes so well with girls but i asked another friend and she said in the cls(which im not in btw), he only ever sits with guys. Does he like me or sometimes just pretend to so he won't hurt me? Does he ignore me coz he's not comfortable with the fact tht i like him(if he knows)? So far, i think ive been hiding my secret pretty well. But my friend told me to forget him. She said he didn't approach me so there's nothing so i don't know if i should.Wht's ur advice?
by Doc Rogers
Dear Needhelp, this is far too much drama and far too much analysis. Dating shouldn't be this difficult, and asking people out and being social shouldn't be this difficult.
The problem with your scenario is that you're trying to analyze his actions and draw conclusions from his behaviors, but it's really all a guessing game. Who knows what his actions mean. He's a young guy? You're a young gal? Young men don't know how to act around women, so their actions aren't very readable and interpreting them is nearly impossible.
If you like him, ask him out. That's the quickest way to discover if he likes you back. If he accepts, he likes you, if he doesn't accept, he doesn't like you like that.
Trust me, the risk of rejection is worth the ability to end this drama.