August 29, 2008

I have been feeling something for a friend i don't quite know for a while. It all started at a night event. He started talking to me and asked me stuff. There were many mutual friends, he was across the table and i looked at him. He caught me staring and we stared at each other for some time. Then I broke the contact and he suddenly rose and went and sit closeby but away from the table. I'm not that sure but it was a look of frustation as he got up. After that night, whenever i approach him or his friend, he'll look and say my name. Everytime i arrive at someplace where he is, his mannerism suddenly changes and sometimes, he's so indifferent it hurts. But when I was talking to a friend, he was closeby and he just hanged around and looked at me even though i wasn't talking to him. I find that he looks at me a particular way yet sometimes he's next to me but ignores me completely whenever i don't look in his direction. It's like at times, we're complete strangers but recently, he started talking to me after a break coz i was sitting at the same table. And many times when he sees me, he acts surprised and speaks my name each time. I really don't get this guy- i like him but i'm really afraid of rejection so much so i don't dare look at him these days. Does he even like me from his actions?

Lia

by Doc Rogers

Lia, it sounds from your descriptions that you and he are both still young? Highschool? Junior High? Younger?

First off, guys this young don't know what the hell they're doing. They try to act cool around girls, when the reality is they're usually chicken shits. And that's a technical term.

If you want to get to the bottom of it, don't play games with him. Ask him this, say "Are you interested in me? I've noticed your behaviors around me, and they're a bit odd. If you're interested, you don't have to play games. Just tell me you're interested and ask me out."

If you say that, the worst that happens is he says he's not interested. BUT, if that happens, you'd have the knowledge that you don't have now and you wouldn't be stressing over some young guy who doesn't know anything about women anyway.